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Parenting On My Back

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Parenting on my back was fueled in the parent-child relationship. In my life, the roles were reversed: my children became caregivers to me.

This unwelcome crisis was unexpectedly thrust into my existence in the prime of my life, when I was 37 years young, and the girls were 7 and 11 years of age. Rheumatoid arthritis stole my mobility and attacked my joints, leaving me motionless. I found myself using a wheelchair and having to rely on those “little hands” for such things as food, grooming, bathing, dressing, cooking and cleaning.

My challenge was to establish that even though the roles may have changed, the rules did not. I was still their mother. As they grew older, their need for independence also grew, and this became more and more difficult.

This experience taught me the importance of being open with my children and giving them a voice. With them, I was an open book when it came to such things as our finances and our family situation. In turn, I was also willing to listen and walk with them through their life journeys. I provided them a safe space where they could air their grievances about school, their social lives, anything.

Giving them a voice helped tremendously. I wanted them to feel that they weren’t my servants, but that even while I was parenting on my back, they were my little human beings that I loved and respected.

Join me as I continue to reveal the lessons I learned from parenting on my back in the weeks ahead. I would love to hear your comments and insights as I expand on this subject.

Forgiveness Defeats Hate

“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”–Mahatma Gandhi

My husband was chronically allergic to responsibility, coming into our lives when we were thriving, then abandoning us when we needed him the most. I wanted desperately to believe he could change, and so did my girls, but after a while, we accepted the fact that he would always be allergic to responsibility and that was who he was.

I still remember the time when my daughter, Jasmine, searched the house and looked out the window in vain for a sign of her daddy or his car. All she found was empty space, in the house and inside his car, parked in the carport—her dad was gone.

A while later, he stepped into our house, eager to reconcile, again. I knew little of the hidden fury Jazzy was harboring for her father. She was angry at him for abandoning us, for leaving her young hands to carry the burden of adulthood, and for never considering how it might make his children feel when he left.

Before I knew it, she was charging at him with a knife, chanting “I hate you! I hate you!”

Thankfully, no one was hurt, but I was greatly disturbed at what I had seen. I spoke to Jazzy gently about what happened.

“Jazzy, do you really hate your father?” I asked.

“I’m going to hate him until he decides to make amends to me,” she answered.

I confessed to her that I couldn’t say I knew exactly how she felt, but I did know this: Hate is the emotion that taints the spirit, destroys the body and robs the mind; all your power lands in the hands of the person you hate.

I told Jazzy that hate was like a boomerang. You think you’re throwing it at a person, but it comes right back and hits you instead. It makes you destroy yourself from the inside out. It steals your joy and it never benefits you.

I concluded my story, telling Jazzy, “Forgiveness is the key to alleviate hate and the key to you producing a life of abundance.”

Hate is a strong emotion, but forgiveness is stronger—forgiveness defeats hate.

I Can Do All Things

Not only did rheumatoid arthritis affect me mentally and physically, but it also changed the way I saw myself. I went from seeing myself as an outgoing, productive, positive-thinking young woman to feeling like a vulnerable, hopeless, powerless burden to everyone. “Why am I still existing?” I puzzled.

I even prayed that God would take me home, not just for my own sake, but also for my family’s. A body in pain that couldn’t move was surely better suited for the painlessness and eternal bliss of Heaven than for being a mother that couldn’t do what other mothers could.

I couldn’t bear the emotional burden I placed on my girls. They had to sit and watch as their mother’s body deteriorated before their eyes. They also had to help their mother with the necessities many of us take for granted: food, water, and clothing.

And then, I considered the fact that I had looked to other members of my family for help, and I didn’t find it there. I thought to myself, “If I can’t even get help from my own family, what would happen to the girls if I disappeared?”

That thought was what gave me the will to go on. These girls needed a mother. That was my reason for existing. I wasn’t going to let anything stop me.

There was a Bible verse I had memorized a long time ago, yet only seemed to come alive at that time. “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me” (Philippians 4:13). After I started acknowledging that my help came from God, my attitude changed. I no longer felt like a vulnerable, hopeless, powerless burden to everyone. If God wanted me to be there for my girls, I was going to be there.

No matter how my body looked, I was determined to believe God’s promises and to receive his abundant joy, the joy that comes from within. Whether or not my body moved was irrelevant. The joy was still there.

God put us in this situation for a reason: so we could rise above it. This is how God taught me to live fearlessly. There’s a difference between being alive and living. Are you investing time in the people you care about? Are you living each moment to the fullest? Are you pursuing those experiences that will allow you to better yourself and others?

Remind yourself: if “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me,” my only option is to live life fearlessly.

TODAY,,,7 Reasons to Tune to “Raising Vibrations blogtalkradio Show…

7 Reasons to tune into Raising Vibrations blogtalkradio Show… IODAY

Meet the Reverend Raven, a psychic muse, and life transition mentor. She is also a messenger between the higher self and the sub consciousness of oneself. She brings light into a dark situation. She has encouraged change not only for an inward introspection of one’s self-but for the planet as well. She brings a light to people to face their fears and to radiate from a loving space.

Website: thereverendraven.com

Today Host Reverend Raven will do:

Gratitude
A course in miracles
Interview me, Diane Williams: author of Angels in Action, freelance writer, speaker and spiritual coach.

We humans are all made of energy that enlightens, empowers, and imparts awareness to our beings. Today Rev, Raven and Diane Williams will discuss a few techniques to raise your energy, and your personal level of vibration.

Here are 7 reasons to raise your vibrations:

Raise your vibrations to connect with your inner winner for deeper insight, awareness and intuition.
Raise your vibration for identify, acknowledge, and to live your calling.
Raise your vibration to accept those things, people, and situations you cannot change.
Raise your vibration to release thoughts, behavior, people, situations and things, that which no longer serves you
Raise your vibration to manifest that which you need
Raise your vibration to participate in unconditional love.
Raise your vibration to improve your health and well –being.

Problems are universal, we all have one. Success is also universal, and we all can be successful.

You are invited to join me on “Raising Vibrations Radio Show, where “everyone is vibration”with host, Rev. Raven. She brings a light to people to face their fears and to radiate from a loving space.

When: October 29, 2015 At 5-6 pm PST

Topic: Turning Problems Into Opportunities…

Tune in at: http://www.blogtalkradio.com/raisingvibrationsradiocom/2015/09/11/raising-vibrations-presents-diane-williams-authorfreelance-writer

Join me, I promise you will not be disappointed.

As always, I would love to hear your comments.

Diane

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Tune In…I’m being interviewed by Randi Fine on, “A Fine Time For Healing” Blogtalkradioshow.

“Happiness is a gift you give yourself,” says Randi Fine, Life Issues Counselor, Author and host on,”A Fine Time For Healing,” blogtakradio show.

Randi Fine will interview me:

When: October 16 , 2015 @ 8-9 AM.

Topic: Turning Setbacks into Set Ups For Success

Tune in: Click here http://www.blogtalkradio.com/randi-fine/2015/10/16/turning-setbacks-into-set-ups-for-success-with-prayer-counselor-diane-williams

Feel free to call in with your questions, comments or concerns. We would love to hear from you.

Live life fearlessly… says, Diane Williams, Author, Freelance Writer and Prayer Counselor.

Sister Love is revealed…

Sisters are special and moments of receiving expressing of love from your sister is phenomenal.

I hope these lovely words from my sister prompts you to spread the love to your sisters…

“When I think of special moments in my childhood”

When I think of special moments in my childhood

I think of you and me

When I think of the times my mind is cluttered

I think of your clarity

You are my eldest sister whom I will always love

We may not see eye to eye all the time

But I know your love is genuine

We both know that’s no crime

You told me I can have the finer things in life

You took me to amusement parks

You took me to museums

You drove me around in your old car

Like I was a super star

You always believed in striving for more

So I will know that there was always an open door

Open For opportunity

Open for freedom

Open to move forward

Open for improvement

You were always so positive

And you still are

As a matter of fact you

Are my superstar

Thank you sister for all you have done

You are a true inspiration.

I welcome your comments and I hope you express, ” love” with your sister today and everyday.

Diane,

mindofagoddess

LIVE RADIO INTERVIEW TODAY! Tune In… I’m on the radio!

Great news! TODAY, is the day! I’m being interviewed on the

Empowering Ourselves Together Radio Show.

Were we encourage meaningful & purposeful daily living.

I am going to be on the show August 11, 2015 @ Air date Tues 8pm PST

You can listen here : http://www.blogtalkradio.com/discoveringthebeautifulyou

In my interview we are going to chat about Freelance Writing.

Please stop by! You can just listen or you can call into the show and chat with us on air, ask questions or just say “Hi”.If you can’t make it, no problems the show is available for listening any time on Blog Talk Radio and will also be quickly available as a free downloadable podcast on iTunes.

The Call-in # is: 657-383-0172 and hit 1 when prompted to do so.

I look forward to connecting with you then!

Diane

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Tune In… Today…July 29, 2015… Interview with Tony Gambone

I invite you to join me on Tough Talk Radio Network with host Tony Gambone. We will have a conversation on the business of a Freelancce Writer/Author.

When: Wednesday, July 29, 2015 at 8:30am PST

Tune in on http://www.toughtalkradionetwork.com

Call in and join our conversation:

July’s REFLECTION IN ACTION challenge… ACCEPTANCE!

I encourage you to share your experiences with this month’s REFLECTION IN ACTION challenge, ACCEPTANCE! Voting for the winning story will take place on July 31, 2015. The WINNER will be announced the first week of August, 2015.

July’s reflection is: “Go within and ACCEPT YOURSELF…therein lies your power. To accept yourself is to honor God. He made us for his purpose.”

I can’t wait to hear your stories of ACCEPTANCE!

Tune IN… Encouraging Dynamic Women, with host Valissa and, guest Sheria Stallings, Founder of THE SOARS

I encourage you to tune in with Valissa as she interview her guest Sheria Stallings, founder and director of THE SOARS

Topic: “Turning Your Can’ts into Cans” and turn your “Dreams into Plans”

When: July 23 at 3:30-4:00 PST

Where: Encouraging Dynamic Women blogtalkradioshow

Click link: Part 1 and 2 http://www.blogtalkradio.com/encouragingdynamicwomen/2015/07/21/turn-your-cants-into-cans-dreams-into-plans-interviewing-sheria-stallings

Sheria Stallings is an awesome speaker.She shares an incredible story and provides sound advice to any person seeking to SOAR. Tune in, she will not disappoint.

As always, please leave a comment.

Thank you and Enjoy,

Diane,

mindofagoddess

About Sheria…She is an energetic and enthusiastic individual who loves to encourage others with hope and truth. She is passionate about intimacy with God and inspiring others to fulfill their destinies. She is a dynamic teacher and motivating leader. Sheria has a powerful testimony of God’s healing power and has endured many changes and challenges; moving her to a deep faith, trust and dependence on God. She currently conducts small business workshops at Hostos Community College, Columbia University, Harlem State Building and Wall Street Bank of Mellon. Sheria can be found working diligently with the Young Women Christian Council in which she serves as the District Chairperson for 15 churches. Sheria served on the Strategic Team of the National Association of Female Executives and Entrepreneurs which boast over 70,000 members and has been elected as the President for the UtiliVoice Toastmasters & an Area Governor; whose goal is to develop competent leaders and communicators.

Website: http://www.shesoars.com